FetLife review
Updated September 28, 2026 · AdultCue Editorial Team · Facts checked September 26, 2026
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Our verdict
FetLife is a kink and fetish social network rather than a dating site, and it suits adults who want a large community for kink and swinger interests instead of matching. It has run since 2008, membership stands at 13,071,441 members as of 2026-09-26, and access is 99.9% free; paid support for nice-to-have extras.
Key facts
- Best for
- Adults who want a free, long-running kink and fetish community rather than a dating feed with matches.
- What is free
- 99.9% free; paid support for nice-to-have extras (Source, checked September 26, 2026)
- Profile verification
- Optional badge via government ID or profile photo (Source, checked September 26, 2026)
- Audience focus
- Kink and fetish social network, not a dating site (Source, checked September 26, 2026)
- Members
- 13,071,441 members as of 2026-09-26 (Source, checked September 26, 2026)
- Renewal and cancelling
- Refunds within 7 days; no auto-renewal (Source, checked September 26, 2026)
- Privacy and data
- No data sales; deletion erases all your data (Source, checked September 26, 2026)
- Categories
- Fetish, Swinger (Source, checked September 26, 2026)
- Legal entity
- BitLove Inc. & BitLove Ltd. (Source, checked September 26, 2026)
- Headquarters
- Canada (Source, checked September 26, 2026)
- Founded
- 2008 (Source, checked September 26, 2026)
- Support channels
- Email, Help-centre, Community (Source, checked September 26, 2026)
- Pricing model
- Free
- Features
- Mobile app, Verified profiles
- Official website
- fetlife.com
Apps and profiles
- Elsewhere
- WikidataWikipediaLinkedInXgithub.com
Pros and cons
Pros
- Access is 99.9% free; paid support for nice-to-have extras, so cost is rarely the reason to pass, and the paid tier only buys optional extras.
- A settled community of 13,071,441 members as of 2026-09-26, running since 2008 under BitLove Inc. & BitLove Ltd. rather than a new launch.
- Billing stays simple: Refunds within 7 days; no auto-renewal, with no plan renewing by itself and refunds handled in a stated window after purchase.
- Optional profile verification is offered, Optional badge via government ID or profile photo, and it can be set up whenever you want the badge.
Cons
- It is Kink and fetish social network, not a dating site, so anyone hoping for a daily matching flow will not find one here at all.
- Support runs on email, help centre and community, and neither a phone line nor live chat appears in that list for anyone who prefers them.
- Verification is optional, Optional badge via government ID or profile photo, so a badge is something you add for yourself rather than a check that every member has passed.
Who it suits
- Adults after fetish and swinger niches: fetish and swinger, joined through shared interests rather than a swipe deck or a match queue.
- Adults who rank price first, since access is 99.9% free; paid support for nice-to-have extras and the paid tier only covers nice-to-have extras.
- Adults who want flexible billing, since Refunds within 7 days; no auto-renewal means nothing renews without a fresh decision from you each time.
Who should look elsewhere
- Anyone after conventional dating rather than kink communities: Senior.dk Dating, where Free signup and browsing; contact needs paid VIP sets the basic terms.
- Adults after a paid-arrangement model instead of a social network: Findom.com, where verified members cash out tokens.
- Readers who prefer group threads to profile browsing: BDSM-baari, where Forum use is free of charge.
Privacy, billing and cancelling
FetLife states its privacy position plainly: No data sales; deletion erases all your data. On billing, Refunds within 7 days; no auto-renewal. Both come from the brand's own terms, which is what readers weighing privacy and billing want to see. Deleting an account erases the data held about it, and nothing renews by itself, so refunds sit inside a stated window.
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Frequently asked questions
What does FetLife cost?+
Access is 99.9% free; paid support for nice-to-have extras, and the service model is free. Paid support buys extras rather than unlocking the community, so price is rarely the deciding factor. The operator is BitLove Inc. & BitLove Ltd., based in Canada, with no rolling subscription to weigh up.
Is FetLife a dating site?+
The brand describes itself as Kink and fetish social network, not a dating site. Members arrive through shared interests in fetish and swinger rather than swiping or being matched. For readers comparing with mainstream casual dating, that difference settles the fit before price or features do.
How large is the community and who runs it?+
The platform reports 13,071,441 members as of 2026-09-26, and it has run since 2008, with the operator BitLove Inc. & BitLove Ltd. based in Canada. For readers weighing privacy and billing, a long history matters because this is a settled niche network rather than a new app.
How are profiles verified?+
Verification is optional and comes from Optional badge via government ID or profile photo. A badge is something you add yourself rather than a gate for joining, which keeps sign-up easy but means a checked identity is not the default on the profiles you browse.
Does FetLife have a mobile app?+
Listed features: app and verified profiles, so an app and a verification option are part of the product. The audience is Kink and fetish social network, not a dating site, and membership stands at 13,071,441 members as of 2026-09-26. A reader weighing mobile access can start from that short list.
How do I get help or support?+
Support runs on email, help centre and community, with a help centre, email and the community in that list. For a service that is largely free, that is the shape to plan around, and the help centre answers most questions.
How do I cancel, and can I get a refund?+
Cancellation terms are Refunds within 7 days; no auto-renewal. Because nothing renews by itself, there is no renewal reminder to chase, and refunds sit inside the stated window. That is a lighter billing setup than a rolling subscription.
Does FetLife sell my data?+
Privacy terms are No data sales; deletion erases all your data. The stated position is that the brand does not sell your data and that deleting your account erases the data held about you. That matters most to adults sharing personal content, and the wording comes from the brand's own terms.
Sources
- en.wikipedia.org/wiki/FetLife checked September 26, 2026
Backs: Founded, Headquarters
“FetLife was launched on January 3, 2008, by John Kopanas”
- fetlife.com checked September 26, 2026
Backs: What is free, Members, Pricing model, Categories, Privacy and data
“It's 99.9% Free. We don't get in the way of you interacting with people and having fun. People can support us for nice to have features.”
- fetlife.com/help checked September 26, 2026
Backs: Features, Support channels
“Official Fetlife App: How to install the Official FetLife App? ... Profile Verification: How can I get verified?”
- fetlife.com/help/how-can-i-get-verified checked September 26, 2026
Backs: Profile verification
“You can verify your profile at any time by: Visiting https://fetlife.com/verification ... (using your government ID or a picture on your profile)”
- fetlife.com/legal/terms-of-use-hwfvu checked September 26, 2026
Backs: Audience focus, Renewal and cancelling, Legal entity
“FetLife is a social network for kinksters and people curious about exploring their sexuality.”
Compiled from 5 source pages, checked September 26, 2026. We did not open an account.
Not confirmed yet: Monthly price from.
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