Our Secret review
Updated September 28, 2026 · AdultCue Editorial Team · Facts checked September 26, 2026
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Our verdict
Our Secret suits adults who want a discreet relationship and can pay credits when they want to talk, since signing up is free and cancelling is easy. Its pull against Findom.com and BDSM-baari is a large pool at a typical starting price of €14 per month.
Key facts
- Best for
- Adults after a discreet relationship who are ready to pay credits for messaging.
- What is free
- Free signup; messaging and photos need credits (Source, checked September 26, 2026)
- Profile verification
- All profiles reviewed; many verified (Source, checked September 26, 2026)
- Audience focus
- Secret relationships, adults 18+ (Source, checked September 26, 2026)
- Plans
- Credit packages (Source, checked September 26, 2026)
- Members
- Millions of members (Source, checked September 26, 2026)
- Credit system
- Prepaid credits for messaging and photos (Source, checked September 26, 2026)
- Renewal and cancelling
- Cancel any time via Account page or support (Source, checked September 26, 2026)
- Privacy and data
- Profile data visible to logged-in members (Source, checked September 26, 2026)
- Categories
- Discreet (Source, checked September 26, 2026)
- Support channels
- Email, Help-centre (Source, checked September 26, 2026)
- Pricing model
- Free
- Features
- Verified profiles
- Official website
- oursecret.com
Pros and cons
Pros
- Signing up is free, and messaging and photos are the parts that need credits, so browsing happens before any spending.
- Cancelling takes no negotiation: you cancel at any time from the Account page or through support.
- Every profile is reviewed and many carry a verified badge, which gives you a filter beyond a photo.
- The audience is adults who want secret relationships, and the site reports millions of members, so a quiet relationship has a large pool to search.
- Against BDSM-baari, where forum use is free of charge, the cost here sits on messaging rather than on reading, so it suits people who want a conversation.
Cons
- Profile data is visible to logged-in members, so anything identifying on a profile can be read by other signed-in members.
- Support runs on email and help centre only, which is thin if a credit question needs sorting quickly.
- Billing is by Credit packages rather than a subscription, so monthly spend tracks how many credits you buy, not a fixed predictable fee.
- Conversations run on Prepaid credits for messaging and photos, so joining costs nothing while each message and photo draws down a balance you top up yourself.
Who it suits
- Adults who want a relationship kept quiet and are comfortable buying credits when they want to message.
- People who want to leave easily, since cancelling any time from the Account page or through support is part of the deal.
- Members who are fine with their profile data being visible to logged-in members.
Who should look elsewhere
- Anyone who expects contact to be free: BDSM-baari offers forum use free of charge, while messaging and photos here need credits.
- People who want to be paid for attention rather than paying for it: Findom.com runs on a different arrangement where verified members cash out tokens.
- Readers who want their profile details kept private, since profile data is visible to logged-in members here.
Billing and cancelling
Two things decide this for most readers: what other members can see, and how you get out. Profile data is visible to logged-in members, so anything identifying on a profile can be read by other signed-in members, which matters on a shared or family device. Cancelling is handled in your account: you cancel at any time from the Account page or through support, with no negotiation or retention step in between.
Members and plans
The audience is adults who want secret relationships, and the site reports millions of members. Plans are sold as Credit packages, with prepaid credits paying for messaging and photos. In practice you top up a balance and spend it as you go, so the monthly cost is whatever credits you decide to buy rather than a fixed predictable price. That fits people who talk in bursts better than people who want a set fee each month.
What is free and what costs
Joining is free. Messaging and photos need credits, so a conversation is where money enters, and the free part covers the account rather than the talking. Top-ups are sold as Credit packages and the balance is prepaid, which means spending follows your usage. For scale, the brands compared here start at a typical €14 per month, with most at €7.02 to €20.65.
Using the service
The site is built for adults who want a relationship kept quiet, and it reports millions of members, so the aim is finding a small number of people in a wide pool. Discreet positioning is a minority choice in this category, at 27.9% of the sites compared, so this is a narrower lane than casual dating generally. The order of play is simple: look, decide, then pay for the conversation.
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Frequently asked questions
Is signing up free, and is anything else free?+
Signing up is free, and that is the free part. Messaging and photos need credits, so a conversation is where spending starts rather than browsing. Credit packages are sold as Credit packages and the balance is prepaid, so you choose the amount rather than picking a tier.
What will I pay, and how are credits priced?+
There is no single price list, because payment runs on Credit packages and you top up as needed. For scale, the brands compared here start at a typical €14 per month, with most at €7.02 to €20.65. Your own bill depends on how many credits you buy and how quickly you use them.
How do I cancel, and is there a notice period?+
You cancel at any time from the Account page or through support, so there is no call to make and no retention step. Because billing is by Credit packages rather than a subscription, cancelling stops new spending without any renewal to wait out, and any credits left simply sit there.
Who can see my profile details?+
Profile data is visible to logged-in members, so other signed-in members can read what you put on the profile. On a site listed under discreet positioning, that is the detail to think about first. Keep identifying information off the profile if you would rather the audience stayed anonymous.
Are profiles checked, and does verification mean much?+
Every profile is reviewed and many carry a verified badge, and the site lists verified profiles as a feature. Verified profiles are not unusual in casual dating, at 52.8% of the sites compared, so the badge is a useful filter rather than a guarantee.
Who is the site aimed at?+
The audience is adults looking for secret relationships, and the site is listed under discreet positioning. It reports millions of members, so there is a large pool to browse. Discreet positioning is a minority choice in this category, at 27.9% of the sites compared.
How does this compare with Findom.com?+
Findom.com runs the arrangement in the other direction, with verified members cash out tokens. Our Secret charges members prepaid credits for messaging and photos instead, with no payout side to it. If your interest is in being paid for attention rather than paying for contact, the two are opposites.
Is BDSM-baari a better free option?+
BDSM-baari is free to use as a forum, so reading and browsing there cost nothing. Our Secret charges credits for messaging and photos, which suits people who want a conversation rather than a read. Senior.dk Dating also offers Free signup and browsing; contact needs paid VIP, which means browsing is free but contact needs the paid VIP tier.
Sources
- oursecret.com checked September 26, 2026
Backs: Audience focus, Members, Categories
“Where People Meet for Secret Relationships. You're at least 18 years old.”
- oursecret.com/contact checked September 26, 2026
Backs: Renewal and cancelling, Support channels
“You can change your membership status at any time, for any reason by following the instructions on your Account page.”
- oursecret.com/faq checked September 26, 2026
Backs: Privacy and data
“Information you post on your profile will not be shown on publicly viewable web pages but may be shown to other logged-in Our Secret users, depending on your privacy settings.”
- oursecret.com/faq/are-the-profiles-real checked September 26, 2026
Backs: Features, Profile verification
“many undergo verification to prove they are who they say they are”
- oursecret.com/faq/does-this-site-offer-a-free-trial checked September 26, 2026
Backs: Pricing model, Credit system, What is free, Plans
“It is always free to register an account on Our Secret”
Compiled from 5 source pages, checked September 26, 2026. We did not open an account.
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Our Secret
Adults after a discreet relationship who are ready to pay credits for messaging.